Hey, Dolls (and hopefully some gents too)!
Today, I'm so excited that the hubs is joining me on today's post...well sorta'! I asked him a few questions and he answered so together I've combined our thoughts into 3 practical tips that we've found help make our dates, intimate sessions, and everyday life with one another hot and happy.
Let's be honest, marriage at times is WORK and can come along with a few challenges due to many unforeseen and even some seen reasons. Although that deserves much attention in itself today, we want to share some of our Marriage Miracles - our secret sauce tips that have been tested, tried, and put into action and which have brought us great results in our marriage. I want to share them with you because I believe that in every marriage there are opportunities to increase our love, romance, effectiveness, and desire to grow with one another. Don't give up on your spouse - pray for a Marriage Miracle!
Love Over Complaint
This tip is powerful all by itself and can do even the most damaged marriage some good. Remember the days when you both noticed or recognized only the great qualities in each other and could hardly wait to tell the other person what you were thinking when it came to them. You said things like "You look good today!" "I missed you!" and "I appreciate what you did for me!" Not to mention, the use of the words "please" and "thank you" accompanied almost every act of service that you did for one another. Then reality and the honeymoon phase wore off and complements were replaced with complaints. Okay, let's get real! When life, bills, and responsibilities kick in all of sudden your knight in shining armor doesn't look so shiny. When he asks you to spend less on clothes, shoes, and extra curricular spending, you think you've been thrown in the dungeon with Cinderella and her wicked step-sisters. Perhaps the compliments have slowed down when you are trying to get through the challenges of having a child. Maybe you are upset with your spouse because you feel they're not giving you what you need or ask of them. Instead of dishing out complaints, this is the time to dig deep and find the love that once brought you down the aisle swearing to God to love, honor, and obey. I have made it my mission to compliment my husband everyday! 365 days of the year I say something kind to my husband. I look for his rights and leave God to deal with his wrongs. I married for love so I practice my love walk with him everyday. Ok let me drop a few scriptures to back up what I'm saying - "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace." Ephesians 4:2-3
"Above all, love each other deeply because love covers a multitude of sins." 1 Peter 4:8
Go On Dates That Are Childish & Thoughtful
Before you go off in a frenzy and say that you are too grown, poised, and professional for childish settings like an amusement park without kids, Nascar races, and county fairs please hear me out. For most people over the age of twenty-one, we are required to act, respond, and think like adults all day. There is actually a real word now called "ADULTING" defining the expectation that you should behave, think, and respond in a responsible manner. Of course, we all have to do it to maintain our lives and raise our children. However, If you want to put hot and happy into your marriage, please leave adult behavior at home and on the job. You don't want to have to make your spouse have to "adult you" when all they want to do is "date you". Who says fun and laughter are not hot? Acting like school yard kids can honestly get you primed and ready for adult action later...many babies were made after a good belly laugh and a great meal with the one you love. If you don't believe me just go ask your parents?
One of my favorite dates with Ryan is when he surprised me and took me on a helicopter ride to view the city lights at night followed up with dining for two. The restaurant he had chosen had a lower section for couples only with a live jazz band playing during dinner. Talk about the mood being set for the after party! It wasn't just that the date itself was perfect, it was the thought that went into it that made my heart pitter-patter. When dating, be mindful of each other and plan according to your spouse's likes, tastes, and desires. Nothing says romantic like the unexpected and thoughtful!
Take Your Love Around The World
A change of atmosphere can do your love life some good! Ryan and I are both travel junkies and life-adventurers so we decided to take our love on romantic rendezvous around the world from staycations in our own city to beautiful states in the good ole' USA. Not wanting to limit our love to backyard picnics or strolls around the block (which we love by the way) we opt to pack our bags from time to time and put a few stamps on our passports. We don't discriminate when it comes to how we get there either - we have traveled by planes, trains, automobiles, and even boats to express our love.
The best settings can be found in the most unknown or unseen places. When Ryan and I are snorkeling in the beautiful ocean in Mexico, eating fresh grown pineapple off the beaten path in the rural area of Jamaica, and holding hands while walking along crystal clear waters as the sun sets in the Bahamas something magical happens to our love; it ignites the fire within us and we share in spontaneous moments of wonderment and one-of-a-kind experiences together. It's in those nostalgic places where you get to witness the extraordinary craftsmanship found in long standing monuments and hear the history of culture of different lands that suddenly reminds you that love for one's home, country, and family is what makes us more alike than different. Together you get an opportunity to learn the the rich history of the artists whose work is left behind for us to admire in the museums and cathedrals in Paris and London that expands our vision for our own lives.
We recently returned from our trip to Italy where we hung out with the locals way past our normal bedtime, enjoyed the savory taste of original homemade pasta, sipped our drinks through a pasta straw, and found ourselves smiling at each other as we indulged in the local specialty - gelato. While we were sailing along the river in Venice I realized how blessed our love is. Not because we have a perfect love, but seeing how a perfect God has taken a small town girl and an even smaller town boy around the world to experience one of His most mysterious and beautiful creations, marriage. You see, marriage mirrors God's love for us which is indescribable and incomprehensible and as such we should treat our marriages as a gift from God that should be handled with care. So, when you head out on date night please leave responsible and stressful conversations at home, love more than complain, and find ways to express your love in new and exciting ways.
Bonus Tip: Dress up for your spouse it will keep the sparks flying!
As always our favorite part of doing these post is hearing from you by leaving a comment below. I would love to hear what your must have tip(s) are to having a hot and happy marriage. If you are enjoying these post please be so kind to hit the Thumbs UP button and Share on Facebook. In the meantime,
Ryan and Chastity